I Can T Find A Man

I Can T Find A Man. 2 Potential partners are wary of you Attractive people may intimidate potential partners from making a move because they’re vibrantly aware that they have an array of different people to choose from This can stop the goodhearted and genuine people from trying to make their move and get to know a person better.

Author Ossiana TepfenhartYou have a “type” and refuse to deviate from it A lot of people tend to assume that they can only date a certain “type” of person but that often leads to them ignoring good people who might actually be better for them You aggressively pursue any man that comes your way Desperation is not sexy sweetie I totally understand wanting a man with all your heart and feeling rejected You&#39re expecting to date way out of your league or holding out for someone who’s literally flawless As much as it pains me to say this there is such a thing as dating out of your league and trying to do this could mean that you’re missing out on decent men who would date you You refuse to go out This one always bugs me How are you going to meet new people if you don’t go out? Most of the time online dating doesn’t yield good results.

7 Reasons Attractive People Can't Find A Partner 7 Min. Read

If you take these three steps you will discover that love is waiting for you as you open your heart and mind to the ones who truly want to be with you If you remove the barriers within your own mind you can effortlessly find the love you truly deserve More at YourTango Why You Can’t Change The One You Love Compatibility In a Man’s Eyes.

Why Women Can't Find a Good Man Psychology Today

More Than One Kind of LoveThe Modern DilemmaWhat Some Women Do About ItConclusionIn her book Why We Love author Helen Fisher describes three types of love 1 Lust—feeling sexualdesire 2 Attraction—feeling appeal allure and motivationto pursue and choose a partner 3 Attachment—feelings of bonding around sharing a home parental duties mutual defense safety and security Each of these types of love can have very different origins and be independently expressed for different people For example one woman might find that she lusts after her partner is attracted to him and securely attached (perhaps that is the ideal) Another woman might lust after one man be attracted to a second and feel comfortable and attached to her partner only These differences in who we lust after are attracted to and feel an attachment towards arise because each feeling has an independent origin Lust and attraction are often more deepseated primal and uncontrolled feelings Usually it is impossible to “choose” to be turned on or attracted to a partner These feeling Here again I posit that at least some of women&#39s frustration in modern dating can be explained through a double bind Particularly this double bind occurs between the type of men that women find attractive (from biological/evolutionary origin) and the type they choose to attach to (from social instruction) Let us look at this idea in more detail Socially today&#39s woman is encouraged empowered (and perhaps expected) to do it all This in itself often causes extreme stressfor the “super woman” and “super mom” Social norms tell her she is expected to succeed in work run her home raise the perfect children and be attractive and chipper too It is a tall order It is also an order that requires women to be intelligent motivated powerful and in control Given those social instructions women are motivated to “choose” men for how well they mesh with their life plan goals and ideals Essentially then some women choose to “attach” to men who are cooperative agreeable su Beyond highlighting this doublebind for all I will save the “what men can do” for another time For women a number of possible solutions exist including the following 1) Learning to Love Leading—one strategy adopted by some women is to learn to love being the leader of a “nice guy” Think empowered businesswoman cougar or even dominatrix All of these women relish being in charge empowered and having their desires fulfilled Getting what you want can be pretty attractive after all This dominant approach may have a downside in resentment and rebellion however So be considerate (and persuasive) For more on the pros and cons of dominance see fellow PT blogger Dario Maestripieri (here) 2) Following Wisely—other women choose to be cautious in love looking for the “right” guy to be with and enjoying their attraction to strong male leadership These women evaluate and “test” men to find the right guy a guy who will lead with their hopes dreams and goals in mind They Dating involves costs and tradeoffs Double binds and unknown frustrations however can be explained The choices may not always be ideal but satisfaction can be obtained with a bit of knowledge I wish you the best no matter what you choose To see part 2 Why Are Men Frustrated with Dating click here Go to wwwAttractionDoctorcomfor more dating and relationship advice (in helpful categories)! © 2012 by Jeremy S Nicholson MA MSW PhD All rights reserved.

Why Can't I Find A Good Man? 11 SelfSabotaging Relationship

“How To Find A Good Man” is a continuation from an earlier blog “Why can’t I find a good man” in which I suggest that many women attempt to force relationships to work with the wrong men It’s as if these women try too hard.